Cici Dancer

Living is Healing and Growing

  • Couple Therapy time: Did your spouse choose him/her self over family?

    I will invoke a Clinton style response: “It depends on your definition of ‘choose’” I am not trying to be facetious. This is a valid concept, even if employed by Clinton in a disingenuous way. In Theory of Knowledge, a course in the IB diploma many elite international school teach in high school, they also…

  • What do I do when I meditate

    I have made myself a promise. When I meditate, I want to focus on reconnecting with the body and emotions. The time is dedicated to recognizing and validating all that is outside the solution-focused mind. It is to strengthening the foundation from which my consciousness and cognition have stemmed from. In another words, I try…

  • So you feel like you married the wrong person?

    Marriage is hard Marriage is hard, especially when  you have come to the relationship with expectations built up by Disney movies and Rom-coms.  That is probably about 99% percent of us, definitely including me.  Fantasy is an unavoidable part of growing up and adult entertainment.  Unfortunately, it also makes us forget that real life has…

  • Having the race conversation with my white husband

    Last night, one of those took place in my household.  Yes, the race conversation.  It seems particularly relevant given all that has been happening, both in nature and our society.  This conversation is both a response to the current events as well as a part of the dynamic that has been building up in our…

  • The search for happiness

    I wonder if you could relate to this picture as I do?  Often, I concentrate so hard on the next “happiness” at a seemingly insurmountable cliff, but entirely neglect to savor the joy those rays of sunshine have always afforded me each moment I exist. Happiness, how do you define it? My pursuit of happiness…

  • What takes to be a good post-grad teacher

    Enjoy what I learn As a student and practitioner of the healing arts, I never stop learning.  For those who truly enjoy what they do, whether it is cooking or computer programming or writing, you know that it doesn’t feel like work even when it gets very technical.  As someone who was brought up to…

This is how it all started…

My journey began with pain, like many of us. Whether it is the pain we cause our moms coming into this world or the one I have experienced in the sudden disconnect in relationships, changes are happening in the painful processes. While I or you would never purposefully seek such pain, we can decide to respond in ways that benefit us when those sensations assail us. So as I was experiencing the feeling of betrayal, the feeling of being punched in the gut awakened energy in me to expand. When you are in pain, do you strike back, freeze in place, or embrace it so it becomes a part of your growth?

Cecilia D.

Writer & Coach & Therapist